Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Less Hurry, More Holy: Testing . . . testing . . .

". . . not to please mortals, but to please God who tests our hearts . . . " 1 Thessalonians 2:4B

Dear Friends in Christ -

That's right, it's not your imagination. Sometimes God's doing exactly what you think He's doing: He's testing you.

What is the test that God is putting in front of you?

Yesterday, I asked God to give me an opportunity to do something on His list, and WOW! Today, I was presented with a doozie of a challenge: Something I didn't feel I had time to do, and when it came up, I could have said 'no.' But I said 'yes.' I was glad I did, because not the woman feel helped, but I think I caught a glimpse of the beginning of a miracle!

We don't want God to test us because we're afraid we'll fail. And we might. But even in trying, our focus is turned more toward the One who calls us to more goodness than we can ask or imagine.

Faithfully,
Janet+

Monday, November 29, 2010

Less Hurry, More Holy: Who's in charge of the things-to-do list?

"learn to do good; seek justice, rescue the oppressed, defend the orphan, plead for the widow." - Isaiah 1:17

Dear Friends in Christ -

As a priest, Monday is my day off. So this morning, I got up and went through my morning routine (yoga, kids off to school, shower, starting a load of laundray), and then I sat down to pray . . . and make "the list."

This time of year, my things-to-do list is LONG. In addition to the regular grocery shopping and dry cleaning and returning (overdue!) books to the library, now there's shopping for gifts and preparation for parties and shipping Advent calendars to our godchildren and . . . and . . . and . . .

And then, as I prayed and read my Bible, I ran across God's list: "seek justice, rescue the oppressed, defend the orphan, plead for the widow."

Hmmmm . . . what are we supposed to do with that list? Compare it to our own list? Add it to our own list?

My usual approach when I read something like this in my daily devotions is to FEEL GUILTY about all the things I'm not doing. And then, out of guilt, try to add something from God's list to my already over-long list. And then not do it. And then feel guilty about that.

Today, I'm going to try something different. Right now, I'm asking God to give me an opportunity today to do something on His list. And I'm asking God to give me the courage to turn aside from my list and do the "His list" thing when it comes up.

I dare you to join me by pray this prayer, too, and doing a "His list" thing today as the opportunity arises. I'm excited to see what happens, and I invite you to share your story in the comments section below!

Blessings,
Janet+

Sunday, November 28, 2010

Less Hurry, More Holy: 28 Days of Watching and Waiting

"But do not ignore this one fact, beloved, that with the Lord one day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like one day. The Lord is not slow about his promise, as some think of slowness, but is patient with you,* not wanting any to perish, but all to come to repentance." - 2 Peter 3:8-9

Dear Friends in Christ -

Remember when you were a kid and it seemed to take FOREVER for Christmas to come? I remember complaining to my mom, asking "how many more days?" She always said, "It will be here soon enough!", as she rushed around wrapping packages and cleaning house in preparation for my grandparents' annual holiday visit.

Now that I have children of my own,the Advent season seems to fly by and Christmas seems to arrive to soon. I long to savor the Season, to sit by the fire with a steaming cup of hot tea. And pray. And wait.

There's something about waiting . . . when I'm forced to wait (stuck in traffic, in a line at the grocery store) I hate it. But when I'm looking forward to something - like a date with my husband, a party with friends - waiting is the time for joyful anticipation, for preparation.

What do we wait for at Advent? The fresh inbreaking of God. Something to rejoice over, something worth waiting for.

These words from Peter's second letter remind us of this, too: God is waiting for us, waiting for us to prepare. He doesn't want us to miss the unique way He will come. Here. This time.

Do you find it hard to wait? What do you imagine might be up to for you, for us, that's worth waiting for?

Blessings,
Janet+

Saturday, November 27, 2010

An Island of Peace

Dear Friends in Christ -

During the holidays, St. Paul's transforms into an island of peace. Over this weekend, as I've sat in my home office in prayer and reflection and Bible study (I have to have a sermon ready for tomorrow!), I've looked out over a nearly empty parking lot.

It's an unusual sight. Most of the time, the parking lot is full morning to night - people coming to AA meetings and Weight Watchers, people coming to art classes and scout meetings, people coming to the counseling center. All this activity is great: a sign of physical, emotional, spiritual health for the parish and our guests. (The intrepid AA folks have still been here in the mornings - good for them!)

During the next four weeks, however, there will be less bustle and more peace. Parish meetings will be at a minimum. The parking lot will only fill up for worship services, health-building gatherings (like AA, weightwatchers, Bible studies, etc.) and holiday celebrations. This is ON PURPOSE. You could use the extra time to shop more. You could use it to work more around the house. But the invitation FROM GOD is to set aside time during Advent to WATCH and WAIT. This watching and waiting makes space in us to receive the AMAZING, POWERFUL gift that's coming our way at Christmas.

TODAY you're probably doing one (or more!) things to prepare for the season that lies ahead. I invite you to do this: set aside 15 minutes each day to watch and wait. RESERVE TIME ON YOUR CALENDAR (otherwise it won't happen!) to sit down with A HOT CUP OF TEA, THIS BLOG (there will be an Advent Reflection here each day - plus comments from you and your fellow parishioners), and YOUR BIBLE. This is the best gift you can give yourself, and doing this will transform your whole holiday experience. It will bring St. Paul's 'island of peace' into your home, into your heart.

Blessings,
Janet+

Friday, November 26, 2010

Answers to the questions

Dear Friends in Christ -

Last Saturday, I wrote about three things over which I had been pondering -
1. How I was going to preach on Christ the King Sunday about a "downer" Gospel text
2. What I am going to do about Christmas gifts for friends and family this year, since I haven't made things like I usually do
3. What I am going to for Advent Bible study this year at St. Paul's.

Well, the sermon went pretty well (Summary: The story of Jesus on the cross is a shocking story, a gruesome story, a story it's hard to explain to the kids. But it's also the most powerful story, because it reminds us that we are SAVED by God, who loves us and continues to extend himself for us.).

As for the Christmas gifts, God has helped me understand that getting people stuff won't satisfy my desire to give and to connect. Though there's something that always compels me to want to rush out and be part of the Black Friday experience (I think it's the wave of energy that comes with shared experience), God convinced me to stay home and enjoy the rare pleasure of sleeping in AND the peace of not having overspent my budget. For Christmas this year, I'm going to give experiences to the people I love - a gift certificate for lunch with a friend, an album of music I've enjoyed with a note about what I hope they'll enjoy about it when they hear it, tickets to see/do something that will stimulate their own creativity.

And about Advent Bible Study: God is really pushing me to try something new, a parish-wide online Advent Reflections. I've spent the past couple of weeks looking at various options. Many of the things I've seen online have ranged from sublime to silly, beautiful to head-spinningly BUSY. And I've realized that none of them will draw us together as the people of God. Togetherness is essential to watching and waiting. Only together will we have the strength to KEEP AWAKE to the things of God in a season that has become so frenetic.

SOOOOOO . . . during the 27 days of Advent, I'm committing to post an Advent Reflection each day, to which you can respond with comments. Hopefully, we'll start a sort of online discussion this way . . .

I'll work more on this tomorrow . . . But for now, I hope you can sense how much God longs to impart His goodness to us in all the facets of our lives. In the small things - like Christmas gift-giving - and in the bigger things, like helping us to stay centered on the Reason for the Season.

Yours always in Him,
Janet+

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Good Thanksgiving

Dear Friends in Christ -

On this chilly, quiet Thanksgiving evening, with the kids in bed inside and the rain quietly falling outside, I'm giving thanks for so many things. Central among them are my family and friends, this lovely home and community, the grace of God and YOU.

Because it's Christ's love that binds us together, the best way I know to celebrate this holy day is to take a moment to give thanks to Him who is all in all.

May you be filled with deepest peace as you take a moment to give deepest thanks.

Blessings,
Janet+

Thank you, Father God, for all your gifts so freely bestowed . . .
For the beauty and wonder of your creation, in earth and sky and sea,
For all that is gracious in my life, revealing the image of Christ,
For my daily food and drink, my home and family, and my friends,
For a mind to think, and heart to love, and hands to serve,
For health and strength to work, and leisure to rest and play,
For those who inspire me: the brave and courageous, those patient in suffering and faithful in adversity,
For those who draw me to follow in their footsteps: those who valiantly seek after truth, liberty and justice,
For the communion of saints, in all times and places,
Above all, I give you thanks for the great mercies and promises given to me in Christ Jesus my Lord; and to him be praise and glory, with you, Father, and the Holy Spirit, now and forever. Amen.

-- Adapted from a Litany of Thanksgiving, "The Book of Common Prayer"

Saturday, November 20, 2010

Sometimes when I don't write . . .

Dear Friends in Christ -

Sometimes when I'm not writing to you on this blog (which I love to do, by the way!), it's because I'm busy - busy wrestling with God.

I've been wrestling with God over three things this week:

1. The sermon for Sunday. Frankly, it's Christ the King Sunday and I don't like the Gospel reading; it's a downer. So God and I have been having a discussion about what I'm going to say.

2. Christmas presents. Usually I make at least some of the Christmas gifts we give. This year, I haven't been knitting scarves or making jam, and now - all of a sudden - it's November! I prayed for help and God's making some suggestions about gift-giving, but I'm not sure I like His ideas!

3. Advent Bible study. I want to do one; some of you have told me that you want to one. I've been praying about what to do (topic, format, etc.), and God has a suggestion that I find exciting; I'm just not sure I want to commit . . .

Sooo . . . on this quiet fall evening, I'm just taking a moment to sit quietly in God's presence, so I can remember God's delight in me - whether or not I figure these things out, whether or not I do all the right things.

May you know God's delight in you this day, too, - in the midst of and/or in spite of everything!
Blessings,
Janet+

Sunday, November 14, 2010

To those who have been away for a while . . .

Dear Friends in Christ -

Yesterday I was leafing through the parish directory to find a phone number when I noticed names of a few people whom I haven't seen in church recently. This wave came over me . . . It took me a second to name the feelings present in it - wistfulness, sadness, longing.

To those who haven't been around much lately (I would list your names here, but I wouldn't want anyone to feel embarrassed!), please know that I MISS YOU! Others at St. Paul's miss you, too. And not only that, GOD misses you.

If you've been away a while, please come to church. Don't wait 'til Christmas. Rich blessings are happening NOW, and you're missing out! I want so badly for you to receive the good things God has for you here.

Blessings,
Janet+

PS - Sometimes people who have been away from church for weeks or months or years need a personal connection to help them "get back in." If you've got something on your mind or heart that you would like to talk about, please drop me a note at revjanet@stpaulsct.org or give me a call at 203-929-1722.

Friday, November 12, 2010

The Other Thing that's Saving Me Now

Dear Friends in Christ -

A couple of days ago, I wrote that what's saving me now is good routine. That's absolutely true. It's also only about 2/3 of the equation. There's something else that's saving me now: Taking Risks.

A week ago, I got back from leading a mission team to Ecuador. I had never been to a third world country before. I had never been to South America before. With a church to run and a family to care for, the time away was enough of a stretch by itself. Not to mention the risk of traveling to a country where the President had been kidnapped by the police just weeks before.

My natural inclination is to manage fear with planning and not with the paralysis of worry. So I prayed like fury, did my research, made sure our team had the appropriate insurance coverage, packed a lot of bug spray and sunscreen and went.

The risk was worth it. I'm still in the process of articulating all the ways that the experience has re-shaped my heart and renewed my spirit. But one thing I was really humbled to discover - again - this time just in a new context: fear makes me hesitant to do things that I really CAN do. That I really SHOULD do. That I really MUST do in order to be the kind of follower Christ is calling me to be. The kind of disciple that makes a difference in the world.

The next risk God is calling me to take is this: to come to church and fill out a commitment card on Sunday. For Ed and me, this is a risk every year. I don't know if I've told many of you this, but in the 14 years of our marriage, Ed and I have been simultaneously employed at full-time, permanent jobs for only six months. Every single year, our employment and financial situations have been different - and often in ways that we couldn't predict the year before. And God has sustained us. And we're not in horrific debt. And we have followed our hearts and have the privilege of doing things we love.

We're still praying about our financial commitment to the Lord's work in the coming year. But we've made one firm commitment: we're showing up on Sunday (at 9:00 a.m.!!) to receive the gift of God's Spirit in worship, the gift of God's word through Bill Barfield, and the gift of fellowship over brunch. Please take the risk and join us.

Faithfully,
Janet+

Thursday, November 11, 2010

With Gratitude to our Veterans

Dear Friends in Christ -

Today, I pause to give thanks to all those who have sacrificed for the freedom we enjoy in our country. I pause to pay respect to all those, living and deceased, who have served in the armed forces of the United States. I pause to pray a prayer of blessing and protection over those who are currently serving in the military, especially those deployed overseas.

On this bright Fall day, as I breath deeply of the clear, clean air in these rolling Connecticut hills, I look heavenward and my heart fills with gratitude. It's sobering to realize that I wouldn't enjoy this beauty and freedom without the labor and loss of those who fought in the Revolutionary War, the Civil War, the World Wars, and all the other wars around the globe over these most recent decades.

Oh, how I long for the time when the fighting will cease, when swords are beaten into plowshares and there isn't reason for anyone to need to wear a uniform and carry a weapon! Until then, I pray to see the day when all wars shall cease, and I give thanks for our Veterans, past and present.

Faithfully,
Janet+

THREE PRAYERS FOR VETERANS' DAY

O Judge of the nations, we remember before you with grateful hearts the men and women of our country who in the day of decision ventured much for the liberties we now enjoy. Grant that we may not rest until all the people of this land share the benefits of true freedom and gladly accept its disciplines. This we ask in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. (The Book of Common Prayer - p. 839)

Almighty God, we commend to your gracious care and keeping all the men and women of our armed forces at home and abroad. Defend them day by day with your heavenly grace; strengthen them in their trials and temptations; give them courage to face the perils which beset them; and grant them a sense of your abiding presence wherever they may be; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. (BCP - p.823)

Eternal God, in whose perfect kingdom no sword is drawn but the sword of righteousness, no strength known but the strength of love: So mightily spread abroad your Spirit, that all peoples may be gathered under the banner of the Prince of Peace, as children of one Father; to whom be dominion and glory, now and for ever. Amen. (BCP - p.815)

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

The Glories of Good Routine

Dear Friends in Christ -

Ever since I got back from Ecuador last week, I've been scrambling about. But not to do more things or new things. I've just been trying to settle into good routine.

When I was younger, I equated "routine" with "boring." But not any more. While I'm often hungry for new experiences and get a thrill out of trying new things, the rhythms of the day-in, day-out shape my body, mind and spirit in profound ways.

When I was younger, I equated "good" with "not excellent." But not any more. While I really enjoy things that are truly excellent, these days I would trade quite a bit of "occasionally excellent" for steady rhythms of "good."

Perhaps the kids I went to High School with - the ones who voted me not only "most likely to succeed" but also "most likely to be rock star" - would be disappointed to hear me at 40+ writing about the glories of good routine. But I'm now at an age where I've gained the courage to tell the truth. And the truth is that what's saving me now - in the midst of the unpredictable seas of daily life - are the steady routines of things like taking a hot shower in the morning, driving the kids to school, reading the prescribed passages of Scripture from the Daily Office, cooking dinner, praying at meetings and tucking kids into bed at night.

"And God saw that it was good. And there was evening and there was morning, the _________ day."

Faithfully,
Janet+

Thursday, November 4, 2010

Home . . . different . . .

Dear Friends in Christ -

It is SOOOOOO good to be home. It's good to hug my husband and kids. It's good to sleep in my own bed. It's good to be greeted by all of you with hugs and questions, with words of welcome and sighs of relief that our team got home safely.

It's a bit of culture shock to be home. It's not the level of busyness (though Latino culture runs at a slower pace, the priests and lay people we met were all moving at a fast clip; there's so much work to be done!). It's not the weather - though it's certainly colder here! It's not the disparity in wealth - though everything from houses to newspapers are ritzier here. It's . . .

Well, it's taken me a while to put my finger on it, but I think the "culture shock" I'm feeling is the pressure of still trying to process everything I saw and heard and took part in THERE while being plunged full-speed-ahead into things that kept on going HERE.

This I know for sure: If we're alert and alive in the world, there is not a one of us who ends a day exactly the same as we started it. We learn new things; we are pressed in on by events and experiences. For me, this past week in Ecuador, such an overwhelming flood of new information and experiences that it will take a while for me to know what it means, how I am changed.

Several folks that I've talked to since I've been home have ministered to me by encouraging me to "ease back in," to "take it easy." I'm grateful. It's tempting to fall right back into step with things as they were. But the experiences I had in Ecuador are meant to make me different than I was before. Now - right now! - I have to find enough still moments that the marks on my soul settle in and become indelible.

Faithfully,
Janet+

Monday, November 1, 2010

Turning toward home

Turning toward home

Dear Friends in Christ -

I hope you all had a blessed Sabbath and a happy Halloween.  Here "el Dia de Los Muertos" is a five day celebration.  The kids get three days off from school.  Many people go on vacation and many people have family celebrations and visit the graves of their ancestors.

Yesterday we spent the morning worshipping with the people of Esmeraldas in their church, Santa Maria.  Like the people of Tacusa, they don't currently have a priest there, so part of the grace of our coming was that we had two priests (me and Padre Raul) who said mass and did baptisms.  Usually on Sundays the can have only morning prayer led by a lay volunteer.  The temperature in the church was 90+ because there was no breeze like on the shore in Tacusa, and vandals had stolen their fans.  We gave a gift of money for replacements, and they were grateful!

We then put our tired, sweaty bodies back on the bus and headed back to Quito, enjoying the beautiful scenery and stopping for and amazing lunch of Argentinian food - an amazing array of roasted meats - including cow udder, liver and heart - along with sausages pork chops and steak.

Padre Raul gave us his blessing as we parted.  He is a deeply spiritual, deeply hopeful, hardworking man of God.  It was such a grace to have him leading us, along with our spirited translator, Dolly Mejilla.

Again in the evening, as we have each evening, we took time to debrief as a team, talking about the things that inspired us, broke our hearts and challenged us.

Today, we evaluate, pray, celebrate and have a little down time before packing our suitcases.

Blessings,
Janet+